Paying for a relationship

You often hear of people going to a coffee place and the woman having a nice time and all with some guy, but often it's the guy that going over to pay for the drinks rather than the woman. Which makes dating often feel like a chore for the guy, rather than a treat which it usually is for the woman. So women don't think of how to make a night be nice for the guy, while being with the guy. Instead I hear of a lot of women that think of the way to make a nice night for a guy be just letting him do his own thing, which seems counter to my concept of what a relationship should be.

It's why a lot of "nice guys" that women want to be with, generally will feel like not bothering to get with a woman, since it can just mean a whole lot of courting that is really just a way for the woman to have fun on the town at someone else' expense. Maybe I am too young to really have dealt with this kind of stuff to really know how most adults function.

Do you think women have it harder than men? I mean it's easier for women to get in relationships, but look at what happens when they get put in the same situation as men. Girls with an attractiveness level equal to that of guys are automatically placed in higher leagues. It's a social thing. I'm not so sure why girls are more social, perhaps because society has been bent so that even the fattest of the fat of girls think they're pretty.

A gay friend said that straight women have it easier than straight guys, at least in todays society. Things like pay are basically the same for men and women now when they do equal work, so the only thing that really is special to being either sex is relationships, and women have the easier role in relationships since they are the one sought after rather than the one doing the seeking. Women in general have just the easiest possible life, in regards to relationships. But many get stuck thinking of themselves as ultra-special and wonderful, and want to be waited on which just makes guys get tired or frustrated as they try to placate women's desires to be independent and waited on at the same time. How often do you hear about a woman going out and buying a guy a coffee? Or getting a pizza and bringing it by a guy's place to hang out?

Women can be a bit odd about this stuff. I'd really love to hear about a woman that is desperate for a nice boyfriend, that actually goes out of her way to do something nice for guys on a regular basis. Because I really can't believe it ever happens. 

Money usually means something to people, and the whole gesture of paying for something is also meaningful to people. The idea that one person should be the one to bare that burden is one of inequality especially in a relationship. Do whatever you feel is right, maybe take turns, it really doesn't matter to me. It's not about equality, it's about paying for something, it's not a big deal don't make it into one. Don't worry about money so much, go for a walk in the park or some shit if you don't want to spend money. 

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Feels peaceful, man

I haven't gone anywhere because I want to in a long time. I go out but mostly only because I have to. I don't count stuff like doing internship or college or stuff my mom suggests I go to. I have set a goal to change my social life over the summer.

I read about people partying and "clubbing" and whatnot more often these days on Facebook and feel like it's just me. Never been to a party, never cared about them, never wanted to go to them, etc. I just never get invited anywhere, never take initative of anything. Feel bad about it sometimes, but it's just the way I am, I guess. The vast majority of my times is still spent at work or in my dark, air conditioned room.

Not as much as I used to be. I'm not a complete social alien, I just keep to myself and associate with other human beings sparsely.  I dont have a hard time talking to people, I actually like talking and i get hyper around others. I do have a girlfriend. I do go to school and have a job.  I have a few friends IRL, dont see them often. If I had friends like the ones I have online and talk to daily I'd be a pretty fucking happy man.

I know people but there's very little connection, when I look at them I don't see individuals I just see a "human", it's kind of like noticing a car rather than the people driving the car, you acknowledge there presence only in the moment and then you move on with your day and forget their existence.

I'm a shut in but I hate it. I sit at home alone all day miserably, then when my friends invite me to go out with them I end up leaving early because I'd rather be alone at home. Then once I get home I feel like I'm wasting my youth sitting on the computer all day and get depressed again.

I hate being a shut in.. clubbing however is overrated unless you're drinking/on-something.

Comic that just about sums it up

False dichotomy.

So much easier to stay inside, there's no barriers to put up, no facade and I'm always at ease.

I hate talking to people. They just tell me their problems and instead of having fun, I just suffer from complete boredom talking to that person. I don't like talking to people, it drains me, but I'm able to do it adequately nonetheless. So yeah, I'm not interested in other people, most of the time anyway. Though that doesn't mean my dick doesn't get hard when I see a pretty girl. I have no friends to introduce me to other friends, there's no foot in between the door. What am I to do other than walk up to a random person and ask if he or she wants to be my friend because I have none? Maybe I just haven't met interesting people to like, being with some ...human beings.

I get sad.. then I go whine to people on the internet. I do the daydreaming social interaction thing too. I have complex conversations in my head with friends existant or non existant. Once in a while I go to a girl friends house and hope for some contact in the form of holding hands or cuddling.. Or just hold pillow very tight.

I mostly focus on other things rather than worrying about having someone. Music, Blogging, Video games, Online games and some Online friends. It's almost enough right now, but not sure how long I can keep it up till I go into a mental break down again.

In this case, a broken heart sometimes preferable. If I can have relationships, it's proof that I'm human. Right now, I see myself as subhuman because nothing I ever do draws people to me. I get pushed away everywhere, I don't have any skills, I'm ugly, I don't make connections. I'd trade that for a relationship even if it doesn't last. By no means am I incapable of being social though. People may think that I'm a very kind and friendly person, but the main problem I keep facing is that I can't relate to other people. I just can't. It's always like I'm making a chat with an old lady, after a minute or so you'll be like, 'well, I've got to be going now...', and I have this with everyone I meet!

It's a fucking human nature: You always want what you currently dont have! Why do you consider it important? It's just animal instinct anyways. Now, what I want to do is to let out my animal side in other ways. Just whatever it feels like doing.

my ultimate neckbeard score

You post on r9k (this is like the free square in bingo): 10 points v

You are single: 5 points v

You have never had a girlfriend: 15 points

You have never have sex: 5 points

You have never kissed a girl: 10 points

You have never held hands with a girl: 15 points

You have less than 10 real life friends: 5 points v

You have less than 5 real life friends: 10 points

You have no real life friends: 15 points

You have more online friends than real life friends: 5 points v

You spend more than 5 hours a day on 4chan: 5 points v

You spend more than 10 hours a day on 4chan: 10 points v

You live with your parents: 5 points v

You are not attending college or working: 10 points

You watch anime: 5 points v

You fap to hentai: 5 points v

You masturbate more than once a day: 5 points

You shower less than once a day: 10 points

Your facial hair is unkempt: 5 points

You have long hair: 5 points

You read female's facebooks, but don't talk to them: 5 points v

You have ever made a thread about your social or girl problems: 10 points v

You hate women: 5 points

You play video games for more than 2 hours a day: 5 points v

You are afraid to do regular social things, like talk to strangers or order a pizza: 10 points v

Totals: 85

About hooking up

So you're working out and getting buff so you are strong to do what?
"Getting women" as if they are objects to do what? Fuck them and forget about it? Some life. "Getting women" improves your social status amongst those who hi-five people for being "playa"s. Who gives a damn about being more social amongst those vapid wastes of food and employment?

Video games are a great way to have fun, and enjoy things that are availible to you in life. Not only this, but the making of a game is an art form - by playing through, say, an RPG, you are treated to a grand story that is just overwhelmingly more fufilling than going out, fucking some chick, hi-fiving yourself and calling it a night.

If you just date only one girl your whole life and then marry her, I'd say thats pretty nice too. Because that would be what love is.